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I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:39:15 -0700

She's awesome and I like her, but there's a huge barrier in the way and I'm trying to take it down.

I was raised super christian and was taught say no to drugs and say no to people who do drugs. Well now I've grown up and learned that there is a difference between something that is illegal and immoral. I believe that weed is not immoral and is ok by me.

However my brainwashing parents are keeping me from fully realizing this view. I still find myself judging those who smoke, and looking down upon them. I don't want to. I want to not judge. I guess my situation is similar to a racist trying to not be racist anymore.

EDIT: a lot of you are suggesting that I try it. Well I did try it, and I almost lost my job because of it.

EDIT: Thank you all for your advice, I just watched 'Super High Me' and that's helped a fair bit.

About my job? I'm currently a college student (mechanical engineering) and I was offered a job working for the civilian division of the navy upon my graduation. My starting date, somewhere in July. During the security clearance questionaire they asked if you had used any drugs illegally in the last year. I said yes I had and wrote down the date, because I'm honest. I got a call from them the next day saying that I couldn't work there because of that. I asked them that since I said that the incident was in August, if I could start in September; a year would have passed. And they gave me the go ahead.

It was really scary for me. There's about 20 people in my program graduating, and only about 6 of us have jobs lined up. Being offered a job was a miracle. Trying to find another one this late in the game would be near impossible. The one time I smoked it was fun, but I can't do it at the expense of my career.

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DCMurphy on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:01:54.118996-07:00-0700

This ought to do it. [This type of behavior is more harmful than marijuana.](http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/bbiye/dude_its_my_first_time_drunk_on_reddit_and_its/) Seriously, I'm trying like all the other people on here to be non-judgmental, but I can't help it any more. You were drunk on reddit (which a lot of people do, no need to AMA about it), and you *do* realize that alcohol is a drug, right? It's got one of the higher dependency rates and potentials for addiction, but you can buy it at your corner liquor store. Based on your AMA I discovered two or three things I'd like to bring up: 1. You're in college (presumably). You should be learning to think for yourself. Smoke it if you actually want to, but don't try and pin it all on your super-religious parents. 2. This one is going to be mean. You wrote, as pretty much the only line of your AMA, "p.s. Probably won't answer a single question until my BAC is below .01 (12 hours)". To be frank, you sound like a prude. The entire set up of that post was "Woo I'm wasted but I'll talk to all of you guys when I'm sober later". This post is like "woo I hate weed but I love sex and I can't make decisions for myself so I have the internet do it for me." Seriously. Grow a pair and smoke up if you want to. You may not have smoked before now because of parental pressure or religious teachings or a really convincing D.A.R.E program, but now you have a girl that you like that smokes and you have an opportunity to see the other side.

RangerJahu on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T11:22:32.309423-07:00-0700

This post needs to be upvoted more. This OP showcases the main problem with getting legilization passed in the USA/Canada. The social stigma against marijuana and its effects. DCMurphy correctly and amazingly well pointed out the OP's abuse of a depressant that is scientifically proven to be much much worse for someone then marijuana. I think this argument is over.

montage420 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:44:59.685893-07:00-0700

lol. I was having trouble making sense out of this guy until I saw this post. OP.. you are childish. If I had my way, I'd ban you from reddit until you grow up a bit. Stop wasting our time.

Conlaeb on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T12:43:53.118737-07:00-0700

Murphy, I honestly think this kid must be pretty young. I certainly don't go to a party school but I cannot imagine anyone making it until spring break of their first year without having had a drink first. This smacks of high school drama.

DCMurphy on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T14:23:36.712528-07:00-0700

I don't think his post is his first time drinking. He says it's his "first time drunk on reddit", I don't think that means "first time drunk, on reddit". And the fact that he can identify himself as drunk means that he must be fairly familiar with alcohol.

Conlaeb on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T15:13:59.154947-07:00-0700

Oh yeah, I misread. Good on then.

MistyMountainHop on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T03:03:42.174011-07:00-0700

You might think about giving it a try just so you can form your own opinion. Don't feel that you have to do it, but it might be worth considering. If the idea of smoking something doesn't appeal to you, you could try baking with it instead.

corporatehuman on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T05:23:34.540119-07:00-0700

Looks like you need to get high!

bolllocks on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T05:26:50.895512-07:00-0700

This has nothing to do with pot, it's about your ego...

mcreeves on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:22:20.826239-07:00-0700

That's what I was gonna say. It's your own opinions and views that are holding you back. You say you don't want to judge. Do you really not want to judge? Simple, stop judging. People are gonna do what they do anyways, whether you judge them or not. So, instead of putting yourself through grief, realize that there's nothing you can do, and just enjoy it. And her. Maybe even try a puff. You never know, you might like it.

potscentedpot on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T11:09:43.300045-07:00-0700

while you're probably right, there is an axis of personality between being Judgement and Processing.. some people are able to sit back and just observe things going on while other people's personality makes them more susceptible to formulating judgemental opinions based on those observations

InDecay on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:12:50.743796-07:00-0700

Bingo. My girlfriend smokes cigs and i hate them, but i don't judge her for it lol. Sure they stink and taste bad, but her heart is worth it :P

discord on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:21:51.593793-07:00-0700

...cigs cause heart disease :\

RangerJahu on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T11:31:24.046953-07:00-0700

You know what else causes heart disease? Being fucking fat.

Computer_Baby on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T23:12:40.607159-07:00-0700

Dude, rudest thing ever.

RangerJahu on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-16T22:22:25.265162-07:00-0700

just for the record, that was a post based upon a very popular post on a thread at the same time as this post.

TequilaDoughnut on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-12T14:20:00.690047-07:00-0700

But true.

Phatnoir on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:55:43.440883-07:00-0700

I thought you were going to say that her head was worth it.

PunThreadsAreLame on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T20:19:22.919158-07:00-0700

If by 'stink' and 'taste bad' you mean 'smell delicious' and 'taste phenomenal' then yes, they do =D. Also, pot really isn't that big of a deal. And think of it as something she does, not who she is.

InDecay on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T20:48:42.090103-07:00-0700

I know its not because i smoke it too lol. I just hate the ciggies. but like i said, i deal with it.

Gonzo53 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T13:57:46.503256-07:00-0700

I agree that cigs are gross and generally bad. I don't judge though. I have had my fair share of drunk cigs. With every argument for legalization in mind, I can not for the life of me even utter the words marijuana is illegal and I am going to obey the government's wishes. Also, I think that weed is generally a great drug. While it can help with numerous medical issues, it also helps me alleviate hangovers and enjoy food, movies, and music more. Anyone that says that weed is immoral probably also thinks that condom usage is a sin. Do not listen to your parents. You are an adult

diggbots on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T14:40:55.361141-07:00-0700

cigs are terrible! at this point i only date someone long term whom I could eventually consider a potential marriage candidate. I refuse to date someone who smokes cigarettes. I have friends who smoke and I don't judge them. But I do judge a potential life mate solely on the principle that its unhealthy. I want to be with you for the rest of my life.. Then why would I want to date someone that is shortening their lifespan by such a stupid vice? cigs aren't worth it. if you smoke the green? I have no problem as there isn't any evidence long term that it causes damage.

InDecay on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T14:50:25.235389-07:00-0700

She smokes the green and the brown lol. I have an occasional cigar, but who she is, is not changed by the cigarette she inhales, and i would rather have who i want, then find a substitute because she smokes a cig every 20 minutes lol. Now meth.. crack..speed or whatever else along them lines, those will make me leave in a heartbeat. if she would not quit that is.

diggbots on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T15:44:17.283725-07:00-0700

scenario. this is the perfect girl. you want to marry her. you can or rather should agree with me that its stupid to have your girlfriend smoke. lets say for the sake of argument that you are married and you have the picture perfect marriage. You love each other. She gets cancer and dies because of smoking. The *love of your life* dies because she couldn't put down the cigarettes. Wouldn't you think that is a selfish thing for her to do? She likes it but she continues to do it knowing that it will shorten her life. Assuming you don't die before her she is taking the time away from you and her family just because she wants to smoke. If she doesn't die from Cancer here are all the other fun things she can expect. >All smokers are at extra risk for: * Coronary heart disease (for example, heart attacks); * Peripheral vascular disease (circulatory problems); * Aortic aneurysm; * High blood pressure; * High cholesterol (LDL); * Lung cancer; * Cancer of the mouth, throat and voice box; * Cancer of the pancreas; * Cancer of the kidney, and urinary bladder; * Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD); * Chronic bronchitis; * Emphysema; * Pneumonia; * Influenza (the "flu"); * The common cold; * Peptic ulcers; * Chronic bowel disease (Crohn's Disease); * Tooth decay (cavities); * Gum disease; * Osteoporosis; * Sleep problems (falling asleep inappropriately and/or frequent waking); * Cataracts; and * Thyroid disease (Grave's Disease). Yum. Makes me wonder why with all this information out now why people continue to smoke and even start in the first place.

InDecay on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T17:55:42.615369-07:00-0700

I don't believe in marriage. Problem solved. But srsly, i used to smoke and i quit.. once i found weed that is. It has too many risks for me, but her decision is her decision, and i love her how she is. If she decides to quit on her own like i did, good for her, but her smoking wont stop me from wanting to be with her. It selfish for you to want to get your way, over what she wants is it not? Either way someone is selfish in this situation.

diggbots on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T18:20:17.202038-07:00-0700

>It selfish for you to want to get your way, over what she wants is it not? Not when her life/health is at risk. :P

InDecay on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T18:23:23.968447-07:00-0700

Touche, which is what i realized and why i quit, but some people choose that urge over their health. They don't see a long run, only a short run.

diggbots on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T18:28:59.639764-07:00-0700

:( glad you quit though. http://i.imgur.com/z4FP7.jpg

rufusthenoodle on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:03:23.709048-07:00-0700

Step1: read this: http://i.imgur.com/NOjX7.jpg Step2: reenact.

cbarber420 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T07:16:25.254222-07:00-0700

Solution: **Get baked with her!** Your views will probably change as long as you go into it with an open mind. Give bud a chance man.

khmr33 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:39:09.265354-07:00-0700

Keep in mind that whatever bad opinion of cannabis smokers you have is based on the reality of its prohibition. Those smokers who want maximize their chances of staying out of trouble remain behind closed doors. If cannabis was regulated like alcohol and you could enjoy it in public, those previously self induced shut-ins would have a chance to get out. They could engage in the outwardly productive activities that are more socially acceptable without incident. As it stands, cannabis users tend to gravitate towards inwardly productive or creative outlets. This already puts them on the fringe of American society except perhaps in the larger urban areas. A rigidified authoritarian power structure, such as a church and by extension your family will never accept someone like this girl. This is not necessarily because she uses cannabis. This is because they know, at least subconsciously, that she will not submit to their localized social game rules. Though they will try to discredit her; the reality is that she represents a threat to their social control mechanisms. You might not understand this completely until you remove yourself from that environment long enough to relax some of those conditioned reflexes. You may not even realize that your current environment is designed to make you operate below the level of reason by way of conditioned reflexes and faith. Listen to the exact words your parents and other adults use. I'm willing to bet that most of their language is made up of strict black and white, either/or assertions. The language you use effects your perception and therefore your behavior. They make an evaluation based on their social conditioning, project that evaluation outward and call it reality. They will never realize that what they call reality is really just their own personal evaluations. These evaluations only really apply to their own nervous system, and those around them who have been conditioned to react to the same set of game rules. It's really easy to overlook with a large community like a church. Everyone's assertions and personal evaluations are more or less homgenous relative to that social group. They will have successfully managed to filter out or demonize all of the conflicting signals from the outside world. Without sufficient perspective it is easy to forget that a social group's interpretation of the external world is just that... an interpretation. It is applicable only for that group and is functionally meaningless outside of that group. This is, I hope, what you will come to personally experience if you engage in cannabis use... That reality is plural and mutable. That our interactions are really negotiations at the borders of our accumulated world views and that when it comes to everyone's interpretation of the outside world *everyone is still guessing*. Scenario universe is non-simultaneously apprehended. No one has the complete truth about everything. Anyone who claims to know, or possesses a book that claims to know the complete truth about everything is directly contradicting all of the knowledge of the 20th century. Oh sorry... wrong meeting. That's tomorrow night at the docks. What were we talking about? Oh right... girls you like who smoke pot. There's only one thing to do: Thelemic, Sufi and Hindu ritual sex magic. Now *that's* a Saturday night.

liarliarpantsonfire on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-17T22:46:33.008737-07:00-0700

You deserve way more karma than you have right now.

DecadeEnd on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T11:51:05.249228-07:00-0700

additional karma added.

ChaosMotor on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T03:19:18.512792-07:00-0700

Hey guy, the anointing oil that was poured over Jesus were made with cannabis. A lot of so-called religious people want to deny it, but the hemp plant has a long tradition in semitic culture, from which Christianity arose. Jesus almost certainly was anointed with cannabis oil. He also hung out with drunks and prostitutes.

sharked on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:57:09.813148-07:00-0700

Jesus was black so he probably smoked blunts.

DBeacon on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T03:48:36.166775-07:00-0700

he then died so we could hang out with drunks and prostitutes

RealityTvStar on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T03:59:39.338415-07:00-0700

Not to be a dick, but I don't think introducing Jesus into a conversation that never mentioned him is a good idea. I mean, if we were trying to help a devout catholic, sure, but not this kid. He has a legit problem, and we can offer legit solutions; bringing Jesus into the mix doesn't help us, and it doesn't help us help him. So why bother?

Zonged on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T04:51:37.431813-07:00-0700

The OP mentioned in his post that he was "raised super christian" so I think it was a valid point to bring up.

ChaosMotor on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T12:18:22.532679-07:00-0700

Because it demonstrates that the very foundations of his religion hold a reverence for cannabis, so his parents are ignorant in their opposition. It is important to know the history of the religion you profess!

anthonytaurus on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T07:10:04.679039-07:00-0700

I don't know how old you are, but if you're still a child, just follow the parents' rules for now. If you're an adult, then grow a pair and smoke with the girl. Don't look down on potheads. Look down on crappy people. Marijuana isn't going to make you a bad nor good person. It won't change you. It will relax you for a few hours. Then you're back to normal. The greatest mistake ever made by our gov't is lumping drugs like cocaine and heroin in with marijuana. Marijuana is safe. That other shit will kill you.

crystalcastles on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:47:13.706948-07:00-0700

> Don't look down on potheads. Look down on crappy people. Solid advice that should be said for any type of prejudice. Thanks man, now I don't hate the Jews anymore. Just the Gingers.

ericb1228 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:56:57.975133-07:00-0700

:-( \Ginger

baloneyjoe on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T07:19:15.656042-07:00-0700

You send her my way, son. I'll smoke her up and bone her like I was drilling for oil.

RealityTvStar on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T01:44:28.338671-07:00-0700

>I want to not judge. This is likely the only bit of wisdom you will need in your entire life. Try to adhere to it. EDIT: On a more helpful note, think of her marijauna intake in the same light as you might view someone taking insulin, or anti-depressant medication. Its a drug that makes their lives better, do you judge them for that?

MorningNapalm on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:46:02.289690-07:00-0700

Well, you know she's a good 25% cooler than the average girl just because of this fact.

f00sion on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T07:52:52.138220-07:00-0700

*24/m liberal atheist pot smoker* strive for it

akilleez on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T21:14:57.969555-07:00-0700

19/m conservative christian pot smoker that's what I love about weed, man. Everyone does it.

mch on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:46:08.982551-07:00-0700

Whats her number

jay0sh on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:21:19.393063-07:00-0700

^- this

WowWeed on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T11:52:19.157928-07:00-0700

Long story - condensed version: I went through the same thing you did after high school. I thought weed was wrong because it was illegal and broke up with my fiance of 3 years because I found out she was smoking while away at college.... biggest. regret. ever.

splate86 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T12:35:09.022139-07:00-0700

That is a really bad reason to break up with someone. Ouch.

WowWeed on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T12:42:10.463120-07:00-0700

My "reason" was that she was lying to me about it and hiding it from me. Lesson learned :P

BLONKOLA on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T21:11:17.017692-07:00-0700

Dishonesty isn't a bad reason in my eyes...

RyuRyoX on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-16T14:17:34.283708-07:00-0700

PFFT whatever, you dont know anything

andandy on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T16:44:12.316609-07:00-0700

...

Frenchelbow on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T04:20:04.651200-07:00-0700

Are you asking a question here? You met a girl. She smokes weed. That bothers you, but you're trying to be open about it. Did I miss something?

saw2239 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:18:24.695896-07:00-0700

Genesis 1:29-31 The lord approves, why would he create a plant that he wouldn't want us to consume (short of the trees of knowledge/life). Just because two assholes named Harry Anslinger and William Hearst wanted to infringe upon your personal liberties doesn't mean that you should let them.

ayeright on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-12T05:24:17.863388-07:00-0700

a: its not a big barrier, you're just being a total pussy. b: "i almost lost my job over it" statement is melodramatic and shows your way of thinking is completely set and statements like this, if you actually believe it (troll), reinforce this stoopid mindframe you have. c: you almost lost your job over it cos you were naive. If you are going to do drugs read up on them so you know what to expect and do when the time comes. Also even the biggest idiot knows that some engineering jobs require piss tests, and you could have lied on the form and nothing would have happened, read up on piss tests and how to fudge them. Christ grow up and be a bit more independent... d: girls that smoke are fuckin sexy since it shows they know their own mind and aren't going to flip out cos of paranoia (a side effect when you cant be comfortable in yourself/have a predisposed chemical imbalance)-although this is just a guess since i haven't read up much on it.

newaccount1111 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-12T09:44:28.692679-07:00-0700

your a & b hit it (d is true too!). This guy is a dramatic whimp.

DevilPliers on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T15:04:08.224226-07:00-0700

I'm a girl. This is precisely why I avoid dating non-smokers. Too naggy and judgmental about it.

RangerJahu on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T11:30:54.691299-07:00-0700

Pot troll is a successful troll.

jay0sh on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:21:39.946220-07:00-0700

also, you should be lucky somebody like her even wants to communicate with a hateful ignorant idiot like yourself.

migs86 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:16:09.617302-07:00-0700

2 options to get over this. smoke WITH her, or let her smoke around you... so you see first hand what these horrible drugs do to screw up your life... and by that I mean put your mind at ease and let you relax.

UnConeD on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T04:17:09.004480-07:00-0700

What does your upbringing say about alcohol and cigarettes? Maybe try mentally swapping out weed with alcohol, and vice versa when you encounter them. Imagine your family dinner toking up instead of drinking wine. Might help you get over your biases.

Indubitableness on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T18:23:36.669857-07:00-0700

Just let her smoke, you don't have to smoke yourself, just don't make a big deal out of it (like you currently are.) For those of us in the stoner community this is tantamount to saying "I met a girl who enjoys tomatoes on her sandwiches, but I don't like tomatoes, and this is a serious barrier to our relationship." Shut the fuck up about it and get yourself some sex.

ryant9878 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T13:48:12.875511-07:00-0700

how did you almost lose your job because you tried pot?

sclark10 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:17:48.829000-07:00-0700

If you like her for who she is, then fuck what everyone else says. If you can't stand all the things she does, like everything, then she isn't right for you and you shouldn't waste your time on something that is clearly not for you.

rr360405 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:09:48.463505-07:00-0700

Listen, don't care that she does it... unless it actually becomes a relationship issue. If you wanna try it, go for it. You'll probably like it, especially if you have your girlfriend with you. **EDIT** I said you'd have your girlfriend with you, but pot isn't some crazy trip. But good company is always nice.

Skibum04 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:33:33.513708-07:00-0700

Tell her you have never smoked before but have always wanted to. Let her smoke you out the first time, it will be fun.

gugalicious on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-15T10:33:58.391578-07:00-0700

'super high me' is ok, but I recommend you watch 'the union'. best pot documentary to date.

BrainsAreCool on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-14T20:51:34.175882-07:00-0700

Here, [this short video](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xVdc5GAN2XY) should obliterate any conceptions that drugs are taboo or are incompatible with your religious beliefs. =)

akilleez on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T21:13:33.955982-07:00-0700

Think about it this way: God created everything on this earth. Marijuana is a natural plant that can be used as medicine or recreationally to alleviate stress, anxiety, pains, nausea, and can give you an appetite if you are sick. If this is immoral, than so is any other medicine that is prescribed or bought over the counter. As for recreational use, it can put you in touch with your creative side, and allows you to see things from a completely different angle. The reason people think its immoral is because that's what they have been taught to believe since MJ was criminalized in the early 1900s. Before then, people had been smoking cannabis without problems for thousands of years. Whats the difference between consuming a tomato and consuming cannabis? Its all in your head. There is nothing in the bible that says marijuana is against gods word.

my_cat_joe on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T13:47:49.715523-07:00-0700

I was in the same situation, only in reverse. My girlfriend doesn't smoke and I do. She thought it would be a relationship breaker. I told her "Look, you're hung up on this idea that marijuana is bad. I don't share that hang up, and I never, ever will. That's your hang up, not mine." The unattractive, or problematic, part isn't your viewpoint. It's the fixed nature of your viewpoint. At least that's the way I felt with her. If you don't have any experience with any other way, then your viewpoint is just a hang up. You are just stuck on what you know. Personally, I'm always more attracted to people who enjoy living, and learning and growing. I toughed it out with her, and I'm glad I did. You should hope your girl isn't completely turned off by your fixed nature.

xjvz on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-17T13:28:23.190605-07:00-0700

I'm in a similar situation. What did you do to get her to accept that you do it?

mynewname on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T13:41:41.337060-07:00-0700

>EDIT: a lot of you are suggesting that I try it. Well I did try it, and I almost lost my job because of it. You going to tell us the story or just provide an overdramatic summary?

RipCity on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T13:26:44.806785-07:00-0700

Sounds to me like you're dealing with an issue of knowledge.. While you've recognized that much of what you were taught through school, church, etc. regarding MJ is false; you've yet to understand MJ itself. This becomes apparent in your edit; if you tried weed your first time before work, that was a terrible call. I suggest you further your experimentation with weed, you'll start to control your high and see why others enjoy it ( I promise, it takes some people ~10 tries before they get comfortable with the feeling).. Just don't let it interfere with your current life, i.e. only do it when you're free from obligations for the day/night. I believe that anyone, with an open mind, can break the superstitions and propaganda those in authority have placed upon this plant. It's a matter of wanting to do so, and to do so one must understand the plant.. If you do this, so too will you understand/connect with those who enjoy it as well. That said, your standard stoner chick is a bit different than the average female. Make sure she is what you think she is, otherwise you'll be trying to accept pot solely because a girl you like smokes it.

anarkyinducer on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T12:31:14.479883-07:00-0700

She sounds great! Send her my way!

Code347 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T12:09:52.871526-07:00-0700

Dear Reddit - I met a girl - she's awesome and I like her, but there's a huge barrier in the way and I'm trying to take it down. I was raised super agnostic and was taught say no to "God" and say no to people who believe in "God". Well now I've grown up and learned that there is a difference between something that is real and imagined. I believe that "God" is imagined and is ok by me. However my brainwashing parents are keeping me from fully realizing this view. I still find myself judging those who believe in "God", and looking down upon them. I don't want to. I want to not judge. I guess my situation is similar to a racist trying to not be racist anymore. I guess it works in your situation too....

kman420 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T11:03:54.951134-07:00-0700

your situation is easily remedied by taking one puff of the sticky icky. After that puff you'll no longer care. If you don't believe me perhaps you'll listen to mr. Katt Williams http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=93jQI_6G5Cw

otterberg1 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:50:37.101998-07:00-0700

I used to date a chick that was a total bitch but was cool when she smoked weed, so even though I didn't smoke i'd buy her weed so she'd chill the fuck out. You should both try it.

TheGanjaGuru on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:41:18.488820-07:00-0700

Ya, I think that what you are really worried about is not the folks you hang out with, but what your parents will think of the folks you hang out with.

pfunkmunk on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:31:29.446409-07:00-0700

If you feel bad about judging people you will probably have to explore your faith more than just your opinion of pot. I am sure your views are much more influenced by the reality of christianity than marijuana.

Zyphet on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:15:21.788396-07:00-0700

I think the best way to get rid of your prejudices is to throw yourself into the crossfire, so you are taking a step in the right direction by dating someone who smokes. Observe people. Maybe even smoke once or twice. You'll realize that they are people just like anyone else. A habit doesn't define a person, the sum of their actions defines a person. Hopefully you will come to realize that.

andrew12361 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:05:05.556732-07:00-0700

Smoking is a way of temporarily freeing your mind and senses. Its wonderful. There are a lot of douche bags who smoke thinking its "cool" and ruin pots reputation which is where I think more people draw their opinions about it from. I suggest trying it. No one has ever died from smoking and its the safest most therapeutically active substance in the world. Try it.

15ferret on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:02:13.699673-07:00-0700

Walk in her shoes for a moment, then you can truly judge yourself.

forgiste on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T10:01:25.949932-07:00-0700

Just smoke it, gawww

theDrWho on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:54:45.059820-07:00-0700

God made Herbs. Read Genesis.

Phatnoir on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:54:42.743507-07:00-0700

I find that it's best to follow what you believe in. It's good that you've found someone you like, but it seems that you can't help feeling this way about people who use drugs. Weed isn't for everyone, but people who smoke it are still people. Perhaps you should take some time and really figure out what you believe before you date this girl; it would be terrible to constantly hold a grudge against this against this woman and start a relationship that would be focused on either one of you trying to convince the other to change. tldr: don't be coerced into smoking but come to terms with your bias before dating this woman

dirtydee000thedi on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:43:01.033867-07:00-0700

Educate yourself. Weed is safer than alcohol, cigarettes or Tylenol. It is a better choice and smarter. You can fight the good fight only when you educate yourself. This is not a huge barrier, it is a social and legal view that is built on false assumptions.

jay0sh on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T09:17:56.574898-07:00-0700

lol you were taught to say NO to people who do drugs? What kind of christian are you? cause that doesn't sound like a christian at all. fuck i hate people like you.

s132 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:08:04.244941-07:00-0700

i was raised in a similar environment. my advice is just to try it once or twice and make a decision from there. or, just hang out with a group of stoners when they smoke (even if you don't) and you will see we are a friendly, peaceful, and entertaining bunch.

p0gmoth0in on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T07:05:03.793627-07:00-0700

Try it and see for yourself that it's honestly harmless. Try one hit and see how you feel.

vapulate on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T06:50:05.808941-07:00-0700

For entirely different reasons, I was the same way when I was in high school. Then I started dating a girl who smoked and she slowly changed my perception of weed. You will change too-- just give it time. Once you're around it for awhile, you realize that everything you think it is isn't, and you'll eventually adopt a different mindset about it. My only advice is to not let a single thing she does define who she is to you. Even if you don't smoke, and even if you try it and hate it, you need to accept her choices at face value.

Thurgood_Jenkins420 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T14:00:02.634613-07:00-0700

STEP 1: Get some sour cream and onion chips with some dip, man, some beef jerky, some peanut butter. Get some Häagen-Dazs ice cream bars, a whole lot, make sure chocolate, gotta have chocolate, man. Some popcorn, red popcorn, graham crackers, graham crackers with marshmallows, the little marshmallows and little chocolate bars and we can make s'mores, man. Also, celery, grape jelly, Cap'n Crunch with the little Crunch berries, pizzas. We need two big pizzas, man, everything on 'em, with water, whole lotta water, and Funyons. STEP 2: Smoke a whole bunch of weed. (make sure this after step one or u could go to jail for murdering a really hungry diabetic cop). STEP 3: Get a box of condoms, and, what was that thing we used to eat back in the day? What was it... oh yeah, pussy. STEP 4: Go brag to your friends using the exact phrase, "I got some bootie! I got some bootie! It was good, too."

Code347 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T21:19:27.876693-07:00-0700

That my friend...is awesome! I love that movie....

Abortee on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T08:08:07.806373-07:00-0700

Judge not lest ye be judged. Something like that, no? What is that saying about someone casting the first stone... you're a jesus guy, reach into his wisdom. When that fails, reach into a baggy and you'll find god.

ks50 on I met a girl. She smokes and I don't.

2010-03-11T14:30:48.534046-07:00-0700

GET OFF WEEDIT