Honestly didn't think this stuff still existed...

zarpra · 6 days

Should I do something?

Report, de-Friend (on FB and in life).

catcallthrowaway · 6 days

I've been oinked at moo'd at by adult men.

catcallthrowaway · 6 days

I call it dog-calling. It's happened to me throughout my life. My screen name comes from the last time it happened, when some prick yelled "You got a fat ass, bitch!" at me on the street in front of my boyfriend. I wrote about it here. It's funny: it's bad enough when it happens, but then people rake you over the coals for having any negative feelings about what happened to you. You get treated like you're not human, then criticized for reacting in a very human way.

I've said it before, I'll say it again: I don't understand what it is about being confronted by the mere existence of women they don't deem fuckable enough that makes men so genuinely angry.

panic_button · 10 months

I like how you got more upvotes just for saying Lincolnhat's suggestion was amazing than Lincolnhat got for actually coming up with said amazing suggestion.

RollerDoll · 12 months

I'm overweight. And waist gap is a consistent problem for me, too. These issues aren't mutually exclusive. Just because I'm overweight doesn't mean I don't have a waist that's significantly smaller than my ass - I do. Fit is about proportion, too, not just the number on the scale. Fixing the waist-gap problem would seem to benefit many types of women, not just one, so it would seem a wise move if you want to sell product.

LDTG117 · 1 year

You friend is indeed beautiful, inside and out.

You should post this to r/bodyacceptance. If you don't, I may.

HolaChicka · 1 year

So it was. I'm so used to warning tags being in brackets at the beginning or end of a heading, that I glossed right over this one hiding in the middle.

Me-ow, anon downvoter - was that really necessary?

HolaChicka · 1 year

From the sidebar:

some of our community members like to use this as a safe space where they don't have to be confronted with discussions which involve people judging others' bodies, and making hurtful comments. If you'd like to link to a reddit thread or other discussion that contains hurtful comments, please tag your title with the letters BH, for Body Hatred, so that those who don't wish to see such discussions can easily hide the title from their front page.

KendallD · 1 year

It can be one of the few things that gives someone a real sense of comfort. I don't think "pro-ana" websites are a bad thing either. Again, it's comfort and acceptance. People with eating disorders often feel completely left out of the world around them. When they look at this stuff, they feel like they aren't completely alone.

What's your opinion on the fat acceptance movement?

FatassBitch · 1 year

Cheers to QueerCoup for finding this and originally posting it to r/feminisms.

_Kita_ · 1 year

Such a catch-22. This is reddit, after all - I'd worry about an influx of misogynists/trolls. They probably police and downvote brigade this subreddit just like they did with r/ladybashing and probably do in r/sexist_reddit.

FatassBitch · 1 year

If it's not his fault, then there's something else going on to make you feel like it's more important to be his ornament than to get your needs met.

It's not that I didn't talk to him about it because I feel it's more important to be his ornament than to get my needs met - I really don't think that way. I didn't talk to him about it because I don't like exposing my insecurities.

that's not how most guys react to hearing a woman say something like that.

I didn't say it with gravity, mind. I said it in a flip manner. No biggie. So he took it as no biggie, if he heard it at all. His response was proportionate.

Even if he didn't hear the guy commenting on your body (which I find a little odd--if you heard it and you were on his arm, where was his attention?

He was rather distracted at the moment, actually. He was trying to guide us to a restaurant but not sure if we were going the right way or not, so he was wrapped up in orienteering. I had new shoes on that night that hurt and he was concerned about my feet and trying to avoid steering me any further than absolutely necessary in them - what an insensitive asshole, huh? ;)

If it isn't him making you feel like that, then it's something in your past or something about you

It's an entire culture. It's kind of hard to grow up feeling good about yourself when just about everything and everyone around you communicates to you, one way or another, that you're a worthless, loathsome, utterly undesirable lump of shit.

FatassBitch · 1 year

this guy sounds like either an asshole or just someone who has never had a mother in his life to take him aside and teach him how to treat women.

You're making a wildly inaccurate characterization of him based on far too little information. He's an amazing guy - very respectful and sensitive. Unusually so, in fact. The farthest thing from an asshole I've ever encountered. Knowing him, he probably didn't even hear what I said, or if he did, didn't understand its meaning. After all, if he didn't even hear me getting dogcalled, why would he have made the connection that I was feeling dead unsexy because of it? Again, knowing him, my guess is, if he even heard me, he probably thought I meant I was feeling unsexy because I was so tired, which I was - and that's not exactly something I'd need comforting over. I don't expect him to address a problem he didn't know I had. He's not a mind reader.

FatassBitch · 1 year

and then turned him down without being able to tell him why you didn't feel up to it.

I didn't turn him down without telling him why. I told him I wasn't in the mood because I couldn't have felt any less sexy at the moment. He said nothing, turned over and went to sleep.

FatassBitch · 1 year

It wasn't. He was angry. I've never understood why the mere existence of women they don't find fuckable enough makes so many men so downright angry.

FatassBitch · 1 year

Kita, you have been, for some time now, one of my favorite redditors. I was actually going to crosspost there myself but you've beat me to it.

FatassBitch · 1 year

where was your boyfriend in all of this?

I don't know if he caught it. I hope he didn't; how humiliating for him - I know how important it is for guys to have a hottie on their arm and I don't want to be a source of shame for him. I tried my best to pretend like I didn't hear/it wasn't directed at me, but I think he could tell something was wrong the rest of our night out together. But I sure as shit wasn't going to initiate discussion on the matter due to how embarrassing it was to me. I'd have no doubt ended up a sobbing mess and I prefer to go the stiff-upper-lip route in life, so I kept mum. My boyfriend tried to initiate sex when we went to bed that night, but in my mind it was a pity fuck to make me feel better and I couldn't have felt less sexy after being dogcalled in public once again, so I turned down his advances. I really don't feel like I can - maybe "want to" is more apt - talk to him about such things.

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