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Insight about escalating: Be ready to whip your dick out by dirtyrickin seduction

[–]TofuTofu 0 points1 point ago

I like to whip it out and go "ever seen one of these before?" With a giant troll face. It hasn't failed me yet.

What do you think about this point of view? xpost from /r/askreddit by ikkakein seduction

[–]TofuTofu 1 point2 points ago

I couldn't disagree with you more. Its entirely okay and productive to tell a girl she looks good during day game. You just must be genuine and non creepy. It's a matter of calibration.

GothamSeddit is moving to a new subreddit due to the lack of moderation. by puzzlecrackerin GothamSeddit

[–]TofuTofu 1 point2 points ago

Yes, please work with us. All options to salvage this subreddit haven't been used yet.

GothamSeddit is moving to a new subreddit due to the lack of moderation. by puzzlecrackerin GothamSeddit

[–]TofuTofu 0 points1 point ago

Hey guys, before you jump the gun and move, let's see if we can exhaust all options. I'll be talking to puzzlecracker. Can you delete this thread for now, to stem any confusion?

FYI. NYC Lair subreddit is moving to the new location due to lack of moderation. by puzzlecrackerin seduction

[–]TofuTofu[M] 0 points1 point ago

I removed this thread for now. Let's chat in mod talk.

I'm attending a 2-day Hot Seat by RSD hosted by Tyler and Julien by Major_Pancakesin seduction

[–]TofuTofu 0 points1 point ago

Can you explain more about compliance? How does he implement?

how should i approach a guy i see on the train? by TangerineTangerinein askseddit

[–]TofuTofu 3 points4 points ago

Just say hi or make a simple situational comment. "Cold today, huh?"

You have it in you! Go go tangerine2!

[VFR]: I guess you would call this super direct verbals by pualivein seduction

[–]TofuTofu 2 points3 points ago

That balls on that guy are huge, so props there. Something felt incongruent... like he was trying too hard to be dominant/alpha. If I was mentoring this guy I'd tell him to ramp up the self amusement a bit and let his natural personality shine through more. I never got the sense that he was truly enjoying himself nor that he was genuinely interested in building a connection.

That being said, he's well ahead of the vast majority of people. If he works a little on authenticity and just calibration in general he could be a killer. Like why didn't he tease her at the end? She set him up beautifully! I'd have had her laughing, red faced and in my arms! The interaction felt stale.

ELI5: Why did Zuckerberg go public with Facebook's stock and why are the shares tanking? by illymaysin explainlikeimfive

[–]TofuTofu 9 points10 points ago

Actually zuck owns over 50% of votes and board control. He's in total control.

Excellent blog post on female perspective of the proper mix of "Nice guy" and "Unsafe" guy by TofuTofuin seduction

[–]TofuTofu[S] 61 points62 points ago

Copied for those who don't have OKCupid accounts:

Dating for 'Nice Guys' - Part 1

Apr 12

"Safe" guys vs. "Unsafe" guys.

Please, if you're the type of guy who's like, "All girls just want to date assholes. Nice guys always finish last. Girls are bitches," then don't read this. It's not going to help. It might be helpful if you're actually a nice guy and don't just think you are one. Because actual nice guys don't think like that.

"Be confident. Women are attracted to guys who have confidence."

What does that actually mean? I keep hearing this and it's not very specific or informative. Confidence. There are so many ways this can be interpreted. You could be an amazing guitar player, excellent at killing zombies online, have a PhD and numerous publications, or be the best damn cook you know. In these cases, you're probably very confident at what you do. But these skills do not necessarily equate to being able to attract girls. Confidence in dating is something different, and there are certain traits that convey this confidence. I'll try to explain...

I believe there are two types of guys, "safe" guys and "unsafe" guys. When I say "unsafe," I don't mean guys who are violent, psychopathic, or have unprotected sex. It's a type of personality. I can usually tell within a few hours of meeting a guy, any random guy, if he's "safe" or "unsafe". Characteristics of "safe" - predictable, caring, very nice guys who you know will drop everything to be with you, eager to please, very sweet. The type of guy you'd want to have a family with - good father, dependable, doesn't cheat, etc. The type of guy who often ends up in the friend zone. Don't fret if you are one of these guys. In fact, I hope you ARE one of these guys. You'll make a girl very happy one day. But how to find this girl? How do you get to the stage where a girl you're interested in becomes interested in you? This is stage 1 of the relationship. You're not going to be able to show the girl how awesome you are if she doesn't give you a chance. I'll talk more about this later.

Let's move on to characteristics of "unsafe". I'm going to summarize it as an "I don't give a fuck" attitude. It's about being your own person. Not being needy, being independent, being self-assured, making your own decisions, and not caring so much about what other people think about you. Someone who doesn't need a lot of validation from others. All that is what I think "confidence" really means. Are you the type of person who tells a joke, then looks around to see if anyone laughs? That's needing validation. Not giving a fuck is telling a joke and being chill about it if no one laughs.

A lot of guys who fall into the "unsafe" category are emotionally unavailable. They can be selfish, don't want to give as much as they take, and may treat girls poorly. Yet they seem to have an easier time attracting them. I think what many girls really want is both. They want a combination of safe and unsafe. They WANT to be attracted to these nice guys who they know will treat them like a queen, but they just aren't. Attraction can't be forced, and I'm not talking about how you look. It's that confidence/unsafe shit. If they don't feel it, they don't feel it. So maybe having "unsafe" characteristics will get the attraction started, and having "safe" characteristics will keep the relationship going. Guys, don't be a dick. I'm pretty sure I'm not conveying this very well right now, but do not treat women poorly. Borrowing/displaying "unsafe" characteristics (being your own person, not being needy, being independent, being self-assured, making your own decisions, and not caring so much about what other people think about you) without being a true asshole is what will get you the girl.

Here's an example of what I'm trying to say. Sometimes a guy doesn't even need to talk to convey whether they are "safe" or "unsafe". A few years ago, I was at this concert. The band was kind of famous in the 90s with the college crowd. While the lead singer was jumping around, engaging with the audience, I could not take my eyes off the lead guitarist the entire time. He's totally not my type at all, but he really had the "I don't give a fuck" thing going on. While the lead singer was bouncing around, this guy was just mellowing out, playing his guitar like there was no one else there watching. Very understated and nonchalant. Didn't need validation. At the end of the day, the better looking lead singer with all the charm and charisma probably has a higher probability of having sex with the groupies (if he's into that). But the understated guy is probably getting laid too, without doing much at all. I don't know how easy it is to be charming and funny like the hot lead singer, but being like the understated guitarist is very doable and can be "learned".

I don't have time to write much more now, and give specific examples, but I wanted to add this. There's this erotic fiction book I'm reading right now, called "50 Shades of Grey", and it's been dubbed "mommy porn" by the media. It's selling really well, especially for a dirty novel. I read a lot of reviews about this book and thought I wouldn't like it much, but decided to read the first few chapters free on Amazon, got sucked in, then bought it. It's better than I thought, and I can totally see why women are eating it up. The main male character is a good example of "safe" and "unsafe". He's a controlling asshole a lot of the time, but he really cares about the girl and he's not scared to show it. There are a lot of other characters in the book who have an interest in the main female character too, but they are too "safe" and she is not reciprocating the interest. If you want some examples of "safe" and "unsafe" read some of the book.

I'll do a part 2 on this topic at some point in time with more examples and specifics. Feel free to comment or message me if you have questions about any of this.

A second chance? by hardeplasserin seduction

[–]TofuTofu[M] 0 points1 point ago

Please repost this in /r/AskSeddit.

7 years after learning about the game, I am yet to talk to a girl by FBISurveillanceVanin seduction

[–]TofuTofu[M] 151 points152 points ago

If you've genuinely put in an effort to improve for 7 years and still cannot approach someone, you have issues well beyond what seddit can offer you. I would seek professional help if I were you.

How do I voluntarily unlock my full potential of game? by oc974in seduction

[–]TofuTofu 2 points3 points ago

Search on here for approach apathy. It happens.

I'm stuck at home after my first year of college... by FROawaySHin askseddit

[–]TofuTofu 1 point2 points ago

I feel like you're making assumptions about the lack of a nightlife based on your old obsolete reference experiences. Go out and rediscover your region!

Wow. No Cane.(Spoilers) by Lecter07in HouseMD

[–]TofuTofu 4 points5 points ago

Your comment helped me make more sense of the finale. Thank you.

[Intermediate] ''Shit Openers'': by Fred_Flintstonein seduction

[–]TofuTofu 7 points8 points ago

I usually say "a couple friends are heading back to do a human centipede, you guys wanna join?"

Girlfriend gets me jealous. I don't know how to handle it/respond. by fattydunnoin seduction

[–]TofuTofu 6 points7 points ago

Its a shitty attitude. Giving value will take your game much further than taking. Making someone else feel like shit is NOT giving value.

A truly self validated man has no need to put others down. That's real confidence.

[Intermediate] ''Shit Openers'': by Fred_Flintstonein seduction

[–]TofuTofu 23 points24 points ago

Because lulz.

[Intermediate] ''Shit Openers'': by Fred_Flintstonein seduction

[–]TofuTofu 11 points12 points ago

Lol I love all these. <3 BAS

Others we've tried and cannot get to work: "WELCOME TO HELL MWAHAHAHAHA!"

And walk up behind, put your hands on a girl's shoulders and say as creepily as possible "Hello Clarice."

First sedditor to get laid from any of these wins the lulz crown.

"Safe" guys vs. "Unsafe" guys - [Dating for nice guys] by cromulencyin faimprovement

[–]TofuTofu 0 points1 point ago

It's really interesting how well this matches up with modern pickup theory. She nailed it. Thanks for posting, OP! Could you consider posting this to seddit too? If you don't want to, I'll go ahead, but I'd rather you get the good karma :)

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