Relationship or Weed? Time to compromise...

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

never told him he couldn't.

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

I have not... it was never something I really had any desire to do; I originally wanted to work in law-enforcement as a career (still do, although jobs are scarce), and realized a long time ago that weed could easily limit my job opportunities.

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

Thanks :) I'm glad things worked out well for you.

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

SO TRUE! Well-said. Thanks.

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

That was incredibly well-said. I feel exactly the same way, it's hard for me to support the idea of someone dulling their mind voluntarily and giving in to a substance. I feel that being sharp and aware are two very ideal qualities in this world and the SO and I just seem to have different priorities and ideas of what is important.

It sounds like you did the right thing in your situation! Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it.

My SO does have many great qualities, so I guess it's ultimately a matter of if the good outweigh the not-so-good. -- or the ones I don't agree with.

--Not In Tennessee :)

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

Thanks for the resources. I've done plenty of googling and research. Some of the aforementioned 'facts' about alcohol however are somewhat inconsistent; it's a bit of russian roulette -- the outcomes can be different for everyone. *The same thing could be said about weed.

Overall alcohol as a whole does seem to be more of a concern. However, for an immediate concern to me and those around me, I do not see it as much of one.

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

The compromise is me bending my personal preferences on weed to remain in the relationship. He has indicated that he is going to smoke, regardless of how I feel about it. * it's not exactly a compromise I guess, since he's playing no part in it.

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

you're absolutely right. I can't necessarily group him into that category without anything backing it up. I need to give it a chance. thanks for the insight.

however, if him smoking is ultimately a dealbreaker for me, I will not be "the one with the problem." -- i actually see that as sort of an oxymoron, since I'm currently trying to compromise and make things work.

erdbeerepflaume · 1 year

Good point, but I don't think it's reasonable to compare the two -- if alcohol was the same as weed, then this whole post would be futile. I can drink in front of a cop (responsibly of course), but weed is pretty much not accepted at all (thus far). They don't drug test for alcohol when you're getting a job, right? I guess I see it as irresponsible (at this point) because I feel there are more negative outcomes attached to it.

It sounds a little crazy but the legality issue of it takes up quite a bit of my annoyance on the subject.

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