Not a great seducer by any means

girlwithnogame · 1 year

So, has the advice changed dramatically? Given that I only have a webcam to work with, a full body shot is rather awkward.

girlwithnogame · 1 year

I'll admit, at first I wasn't sure. Some of the answers came across as more of an attack than anything. It seems Seddit likes to assume that only fat, ugly chicks can't pick up.

However, most of the answers were genuinely trying to help. I think I got some tips I can use in the short term, such as using touch and flirting techniques, as well as advice I can use in the long term, such as going to the gym and gaining some interests.

Thanks for your input!

girlwithnogame · 1 year

I'm actually going for bookish, academic type guys with a side helping of nerds. I've had good luck and bad luck with this.

I like swimming, reading, exploring, and learning. Seriously.

I'd say most of the guys I'm into rank about 6 or 7 on the overall scale of hot. But on my personal scale, I also factor in things such as skills or passions the person may have. So a guy may be a 4 or 5 in looks but moves up on my scale if he's interesting.

It is difficult for me to discern what the guys are interested in, considering it sometimes ranges wildly. The last guy I was into (and asked out on a date, just a date) had a really skinny, flighty, fashionable, cutesy girlfriend, and then later went out with a very curvy, cheerful, intellectual girl. Men are just as confusing as women sometimes.

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Pic has been added to original post.

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Pic has been edited in to original post!

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Pic is in the original post! It's just my face...all I have to use is a webcam. Any advice is appreciated.

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Ouch :)

girlwithnogame · 1 year

I laughed. But truthfully, I think the only similarity in all my failed dating attempts/relationships/casual lays is me.

Thanks for the video, I showed some of my girl friends and they got a laugh out of it too!

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Haha, so those rules are true.

Be attractive.
Don't be unattractive.

Or something like that, huh? Do you have any thoughts on how I can express interest without appearing desperate? I actually am a busy person, so it's not like I'm sitting at home waiting on phone calls.

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Okay, so the idea is to be straightforward in initiating a situation, but not actually taking the step so as to create plausible deniability in case I'm wrong about the attraction of the other person?

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Wow, that's really helpful. I'm one of those "gamer" girls (I play games pretty often, but I'd also say I'm rather bookish too). I will definitely be referencing your comment these next couple weeks!

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Thanks for the advice! :) I think if I tried to be completely like those other girls, my real side would come out pretty quickly anyway.

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Hmm. I've always tried to be very ambivalent about it, only saying that I've got a thing for them if I think the attraction goes both ways. It's hard to tell sometimes though.

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Well, part of my problem is I'm so bad at all this that I require a sledgehammer to see that someone is attracted to me and is not being just friendly.

But truthfully, I tend to go more for the more academic type. I've been hit or miss mostly with this. I think what baffles me most is that I've never dated a guy that I really liked first, so to speak. What I mean is that all the guys I've really had a thing for I've been rejected by, and all the guys I was kind of "ehh, physically attracted" I've been successful.

I also think you need to create a novelty account called Armchair Psychologist. Just saying :)

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Oh, okay. Thanks for the info!

girlwithnogame · 1 year

Financially speaking I can't afford to do steps 2, 3, and 4, but thanks for the advice!

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