Probably buried but in many European countries it's traditional for the bride and groom to pay for the wedding and then the guests give cash (not gifts) to the tune of something equal to or more than the cost per head. Here in Spain sometimes the guests decide between themselves how much to give and we're talking a couple hundred apiece or more. If the marrying couple say how much it's about the same level of tacky as having a bridal register at Nordstrom instead of Target. I have friends who complain about how they're broke because they had to go to three or four weddings that year.